Choosing to Love

To My Future Valentine,

"Love doesn't just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new." - Ursuala K. Le Guin, The Lathe of Heaven.


I read this quote and thought, "how true".

It's the month of Valentine's Day, and being single at this moment, the subject of love crosses my mind pretty often.  Being in the second half of my 20's, I have heard many amazing stories of love and also sad stories of heartbreaks.  There are relationships that inspire me and feed my desire to find love, and there are others that leave me wondering how two people could have settled for so little.  I know that sounds harsh, but I think it's because I know in my heart that I will refuse to settle for something that just doesn't work.  My relationships have been far from perfect, and I know it's not easy to always be happy, but once I find someone to make a commitment to, I hope to keep it fresh and find ways to never let it get old.

A close friend once told me that love is partly a choice.  Sure, you can't help who you love per se, but you can make a choice to keep that love going. If you are committed to it.

All I ask of you is to remember that you chose to love me and to remain true to that commitment.  If we both do that, I don't think there's anything we wouldn't be able to overcome.

Love,
Your Valentine.